Write Life Experience Pieces with Feeling

Whether you plan to market your nonfiction writing or write for the joy of it, you'll want the reader to really feel your experience. Were you anxious, blissed out, energized, confused, devastated? Relive it in your mind and use the words and cadence (or pace) that will put the reader into the experience.

1. WORD CHOICE. Ordinary nouns and verbs provide your readers with bland, foggy impressions. Where's the "life" in those experiences? It's in specific words! The action part of the experience will primarily show in your verb choices. The mood of the experience shows in the detail.

These examples come from my  September 4, 2014 post "Jury Duty Write Up":

• I got popped in the bumper. She jumped out of her SUV
• and we surged forward as a friendly mob
• were beginning to get a little sassy and laughing

2. SENSORY WORDS. These introduce your reader to the sight, sounds, smells, feel, and taste. Such words can go a long way towards bringing your readers with into the scene with you.

If you enjoy travel writing, the sensory details become key aspects of your reader's "view." This example comes from The Many Faces of Journaling (2nd edition), pg. 160:

"Conner Prairie   Connor Prairie (Indiana). What a fantastic experience! This 'living history museum' is a reconstructed 1820's village on an immense plot of land just north of Indianapolis, and there life goes on the way it did in 1823. We could hear the clang of the anvil as we walked down the dusty road to the blacksmith's shop... The weaver was in the middle of making a beautiful, patterned red and cream wool blanket on his loom... He had bunches of aromatic dried herbs handing from a rough, smoke-blacked beam near the fireplace... the pungent smell of drying sage and thyme scented the air in the cozy cottage."

3. SENTENCE LENGTH. A writer can pack a lot of punch into a page or article by varying the sentence lengths. A medium-length sentence states the facts. A longer sentence becomes more lyrical. A short sentence is an exclamation, regardless of what punctuation you use. One, two or three word carry far more emotion and/or power than a longer one.  

Also from The Many Faces of Journaling(2nd edition), pg. 104:

"The Bombing of Baghdad   Wed., March 19th, '03 - all day watching CNN & MSNBC. This evening the countdown on the latter. Right now it's 5 minutes and counting. Counting towards what? Armageddon? I'm starting to cry. This countdown isn't exactly like the New Year's Eve ball. But the reverse timing sounds and looks the same. Even that's obscene. Too much like a happy, hopeful, traditional annual event..."

We can often bring more of our living experiences into a piece if we write it as though we were telling a friend or acquaintance about it. When you really want them to "be there" with you - write it that way.

Happy writing ~

Lin

Jury Duty is Writing Material

The surprises and events of our lives provide an endless source of writing material. We write about life, what we've learned and what we wish we'd known, as well as the joys and frustrations, hesitations, and head-long leaps. Because we've lived them, our writing can flow with rich detail and feeling. (Unlike my beloved research, which produces more fact than feeling.)

[My books, And Now We Dance: Journaling for the Woman Within and The Many Faces of Journaling: Topics & Techniques for Personal Journal Writing, both contain pages of my personal experiences.]

Another one will open for me in a few days: my first call to Jury Duty, and my curiosity has kicked into high gear. What? Who? Why? Who says so? I'll present myself at the St. Louis County (Missouri) Circuit Court at 8:30 and hope that everything in my carry-all purse will pass inspection.

I'm told by a more experienced friend that the holding room for potential jurors can become a social event, but that the waiting time can still be long and tedious. I wonder where we'll eat lunch, and if we'll break off into groups. Imagine the new friends I might meet! Being quizzed by the defending attorney and prosecuting attorney should be interesting.

How will I apply what I learn to the stress book I'm working on now? Who knows? But I'll make lots of notes in my writer's journal as soon as I return home each day, so later I can pick and choose depending on the writing project at hand.

That is what life experiences and a writer's journal are all about: building a personal treasure trove of fascinating ideas and material.

Happy writing ~

Lin

Tips for Life Experience Writing

Any writer who feels that tug to write about their own life-lived and lessons-learned has to read this article! It  relates that topic to the hot new movie "The Fault in our Stars" and tells you which buttons to aim for to boost reader appeal.

Writing Lessons from "The Fault in our Stars."

Maybe your nonfiction book will become a multimillion dollar movie, too...

Happy writing ~

Lin

Write About Your Experiences

What major life challenges have you faced and survived? Can you help others benefit from your experience? If you were telling your story to a friend, there would probably be a lot of  "wish I'd known that" and "I'm glad I did that" thoughts to share - especially if that friend was about to face the same life challenge.

Life transitions, or challenges, come in many different forms, but most will have one common element: Who am I now? They include ...

• loss of a parent or close family member,
• loss of a dear friend,
• birth of a child,
• marriage,
• separation and divorce,
• retirement,
• mid-life crisis or menopause, 
• major career change,
• move to another town or state,

and many other life changes.

When I went through divorce a few years ago, I knew nothing about the process. It was an anxious, stressful time to begin with, and my lack of knowledge made me feel even more vulnerable.

About a year later, I made up my mind to help others facing separation and divorce to be better prepared in the practical aspects than I had been. Since I had been a professional (paid) writer for seven years or more, I chose to write a book.

It included the things I was glad I'd done plus steps I wished I'd known to do. In order to explain the legal process of divorce, I interviews attorneys, took notes, and went home to translate that into plain English. The next step was to check back with them to be sure the new version was correct.

YOUR POCKET DIVORCE GUIDE
published April 2014

The 2nd edition of that book, Your Pocket Divorce Guide, was just released. It's been sold and read on six continents, is on the suggested client reading lists of law firms across the U.S., and the thank you notes I've received from both men and women make my work more than worthwhile.

Which of your life transitions would lend themselves to the same kind of help for others?

Peace ~

Lin